I’m in a bit of a panic so I’m apologizing ahead of time if this email seems a frenzy.
My guy and I are 7 weeks from the wedding, you know, that time when you’re finalizing everything, collecting RSVP cards, and stuff like that. Well things were going great until the RSVP cards kept coming, and by coming I mean that 156/160 have said they can attend. WHAT??? How is this possible? Everything I’ve read from day 1 said to expect 60% or so to come. 156/160 is nearly 98 percent!!!
What this boils down to is this: we invited too many people—now what??? The good news is our reception venue could fit everyone; it’s a push but with the nice weather we can have the double doors open and a few tables outside. But the ceremony has no chance. The small church (my fiance’s) holds somewhere between 120-130, and I haven’t even reached the budget yet. I budgeted food/booze for around 110 and now we’ll be well over budget not just on catering but for the whole damnwedding as well.
At this point I guess it’s getting beyond control, but do you still have any suggestions? Can I uninvite people? Gah that just sounds so tacky. Should I move the ceremony outside? (If that’s even possible…)
Is there anything I can do at this point, besides take on some credit card debt?
Seriously freaking out right now,
Don’t ever listen to Martha Stewart Weddings
For starters, take a breather, and take comfort in knowing you aren’t the first bride to run into this problem. Now I’ll start with the bad.
The bad news is you probably invited too many people. If you’re even considering un-inviting people—which, by the way, you ABSOLUTELY CANNOT DO—you probably invited a few old friends, co-workers, distant cousins, etc. that aren’t necessary to your wedding celebration. Paying for them to celebrate your big day is going to seem like a pain now, but hopefully you’ll get a cool present or two out of it.
The good news is you can solve the budget problem by starting to trim now. Were you planning on serving a signature cocktail? Dump it. Do you have a special band/music ensemble planned for cocktail hour? Cancel and have the DJ play something quiet in the background. Buy less expensive gifts for your bridal party. Send thank you post cards instead of full-sized cards. Cut out an entree option or leave ice cream off the cake. There are plenty of little things you can cut so you don’t go into debt. (Whatever you do, DO NOT go into credit card debt for your wedding.) Sure, your wedding may night be 100% what you thought it would be, but hopefully having EVERYONE there makes you happy in one way or another.
As for the ceremony space, I would figure out a way to move it outside, get more chairs, ask for younger people to stand, etc. ASAP so that people can plan accordingly. Who knows, maybe you even have a few younger attendees that would be willing to skip the ceremony all together and just come for the reception/party?
Good luck! And remember, DO NOT GO INTO CREDIT CARD DEBT for your wedding. You’ll regret it later.